Rare Insights From Long-term Staff in Intimate Supplies Shop

Passing by that sex shop in the alley, looking at the few mannequins wearing lace thongs displayed in the hazy window, bathed in an ambiguous halo, you might wonder, what kind of person would run such a shop, and what kind of person would go to such a place?

The author of Tabooless (hereinafter referred to as Mr. T) recently published an article sharing his firsthand observations from working in an adult toy store for three years. Mr. T’s store is located in a bustling international metropolis, where he encounters people of all races and sexual orientations every day. Through his interactions with customers, he has learned many interesting things:

In the face of sex, everyone is equal.

When Mr. T talked to others about working in a sex shop, the question he was most often asked was, “What kind of people go to those kinds of places?”

Passing by a small shop shimmering with pink light in the alley, you might have wondered: who would sneak behind that opaque door? Are they all marginalized figures, the most depraved and obscene oddballs? Mr. T says the truth is quite different. Oddballs certainly exist, but most are “normal people.” His clients include elderly couples in their seventies, couples with children the same age as you, disabled people in wheelchairs, and glamorous celebrities.

Mr. T realized that everyone seeks sexual pleasure. In the face of sex, everyone is equal.

The story behind the fake penis and silicone vagina is touching.

Mr. T once thought that sex toys were, to some extent, “superficial,” devoid of emotion and humanity, merely tools purchased by people to pursue pleasure. But after several years of experience, he realized he was completely wrong.

Many customers who come to buy vibrators and silicone vaginas have a heartbreaking and touching story behind them. Some want to remember their recently deceased partner, some want to forget the pain of a breakup, some have just emerged from an abusive relationship and want to regain the ability to view sex positively, and some are going through a period of sexual confusion and want to use genital simulations to make themselves feel “whole”.

While selling sex toys, Mr. T also listened to these people tell their life stories, which made him forget that he was just a salesman with a below-standard salary, and made him feel that he was accompanying these people through the most difficult part of their lives.

If you don’t teach children sex education, you’ll end up as a sex toy store employee teaching them.

Recently, Taiwan was debating whether or not to teach children about sex at a young age, with many strongly opposing the idea. But the question is, how young is “young”? Does openly teaching sex education really lead children to become homosexual, addicted to group sex, addicted to drugs, and then worship cults?

Mr. T said that much of his job wasn’t about selling or explaining how to use toys, but about teaching young people healthy sexual attitudes. For example, “If you don’t want to do it, don’t do it just to please your partner,” or “If it hurts, what you need isn’t numbing cream, but a partner who cares about you and is willing to take it slow.” The fact that parents don’t teach their children sex education means that a 20-something sex toy store clerk is teaching them, which isn’t necessarily bad, but it highlights the absurdity of societal views on sex education.

The “eccentric” is more intelligent than the average person.

Throughout his career in the sex toy industry, Mr. T has met all sorts of people and has been invited to participate in many BDSM, group sex, and wife-swapping parties. Many people assume that people who participate in such activities must be “weirdos” with personality problems, but Mr. T says that these people are actually more intelligent, open-minded, and friendly than others.

For example, wife-swapping parties might seem like just a way for middle-aged men tired of their wives to have fun, but Mr. T says that wife-swapping parties are usually female-led, and sometimes even initiated by the wives. These people bravely embrace their sexual “dark side” instead of being consumed by it.

Is a bigger penis always better? The most common size people buy is actually…

Is a bigger penis always better for men? Is Big Dick Energy only for the gifted? Should men with smaller penises compensate with other strengths?

Mr. T told the men not to be nervous or to stop arguing. Based on his three years of experience selling fake penises, he found that while there were many sizes of toys on the wall, most people actually bought the most common size.

Are men more confident than women in sex?

In this society, we assume that men are more confident than women in sex. So many adult films are built around male desire; men are always loudly discussing which woman is hot; and society expects men to be the dominant partner during sex… But Mr. T says that men actually lack a strong sense of security, and this phenomenon can be glimpsed from the types of sex toys sold. These include: numbing creams to delay ejaculation, penis enlargement devices, toys for training sexual techniques, and various drugs to maintain an erection… The truth is, men lack confidence just as much as women.

“No wonder men are so fascinated by the concept of virginity,” Mr. T said. “Because without other experiences, there is no comparison, and without comparison, men are less worried about their size and performance.”