A Look at Four Typical Intimacy Problems in Lesbian Relationships

1. T doesn’t take off his clothes

First, let’s address the issue of Ts not taking off their clothes: This stems from the male psychology and female physiology of many Ts, leading to a lack of self-acceptance regarding their own bodies. It’s an outward manifestation of a psychological and physiological imbalance. At this stage, most Ts are in puberty, and their worldview and values are still in the early stages of development. There are two ways to overcome this situation.

First, the T herself needs to harmonize and symmetrically integrate her psychological and physiological characteristics, and accept her female body (otherwise, if she undergoes gender reassignment surgery, she would no longer be a lesbian). Secondly, the P should help the T accept her female body, praise her feminine characteristics, acknowledge her menstrual cycle, and encourage the T to wear a bra instead of binding her breasts.

2. P treats T as male.

If a P treats a T as a male, the P needs to ask themselves whether they are straight or gay. The T also needs to be careful to distinguish. If the P likes you and treats you as a boy, then they should consider other options as soon as possible.

3. Worried about not being able to satisfy the other party

Many lesbians worry that they cannot satisfy their partners’ needs for the following reasons: First, they lack experience and confidence. This is easy to solve; they can learn more and practice more.

Secondly, because the other person has had sexual relations with men before, they worry that they can’t compare to men, which is somewhat of a self-deprecating mentality. Male physiology dictates that in sexual intercourse, they are more vigorous but less supple and patient, making direct comparisons impossible.

4. Guilt

Finally, regarding guilt, this refers to the fact that after a straight man develops feelings for a lesbian, he does not approve of sexual behavior between women, considering it against the laws of nature and shameful.

These kinds of problems stem from sexual taboos in human society. I’d like to illustrate this with an example: A girl goes from being straight to becoming a lesbian. In the first year, she feels disgusted even when kissing her tomboyish boyfriend. In the second year, she gradually gets used to it, and by the third year, she has completely become a lesbian. As her rational mind develops, the guilt associated with sex is gradually eliminated, accepted, or diminished by the individual.