A one-week experiment on improving sex life for middle-aged couples

One-week sex improvement experiment

While watching TV, I saw an American documentary called “The One-Week Sex Improvement Experiment.” The program invited two couples to participate in this sex experiment, and for a week, no matter how much they argued or bickered during the day, they had to flirt with each other, talk about sex, and have sex at night.

This is a huge test for Anthony and Julia, a white couple who have been separated for many years.

The husband, Anthony, is a contractor, and his wife, Julia, is a writer who takes care of their son.

Their biggest problem is that they can’t communicate.

Anthony felt that Julia was being aggressive in her speech, and Julia also disliked her husband’s way of speaking.

Every time the two communicated, it ended in a heated argument.

Their sex life was also very infrequent; when they weren’t arguing, they would have sex twice a month, but once they started arguing, it would be less than twice.

Another Black couple, Royce and Brianna, are in no better shape.

The husband, Royce, is a financial advisor who earns money to support the family, while his wife, Brianna, is a housewife who takes care of their two children and her husband’s daily needs.

The biggest problem between them is that they are “not very equal”.

Royce complained that his wife couldn’t take care of the children or do housework, while Brianna thought Royce was too much of a male chauvinist.

Like many couples, husband Royce comes home exhausted every day after get off work to a house full of screaming children, yelling wives, and a complete mess, like a scene from a major car accident.

So the husband berated his wife.

His wife, Brianna, felt exhausted from constantly battling wits with her two little monsters, and that she was just lucky to be alive.

So the two went head-to-head, neither willing to give in.

What? Sex life? No way, I’m lucky if I can get a good night’s sleep.

Surprisingly, after seven consecutive days of discussing sex and having sex, the relationships between these two couples underwent a qualitative change.

After the experiment, the white couple held a small party to celebrate and expressed their love for each other. The white husband said that he had learned the key to communication this week and would try to put himself in his wife’s shoes. He even got a tattoo for his wife. The white wife wrote a love letter to her husband and said that she would consider his feelings before speaking, “because he has given me the best love.”

The Black husband said he understands and appreciates his wife better than ever before, and he’s proud of her. The Black wife said, “I’ve rediscovered my sex appeal.” “I’ll treat Royce’s feelings well.”

This is the charm of sex; it can rekindle estranged couples into intimate lovers and revive a troubled marriage.

However, for many of us couples, talking about sex and making love is not easy.

Why is it so difficult to talk about sex and having sex?

I once attended a sex education course, during which the instructor asked, “When you think of sex, what comes to mind first?”

About 50% of people said: “I feel ashamed, embarrassed.” This is also how many of us feel about sex; whenever sex is mentioned, we feel a strong sense of shame.

In our culture, sex has never been something respectable; it’s even considered vulgar and obscene. To date, no generation of us has received proper scientific sex education.

When we were little, when we wanted to explore our own genitals, our parents would tell us not to touch them or ask questions, saying we’d understand when we grew up. In school, the biology class never covered the human reproductive system; the teacher would simply say, “Go back and study this yourself; it won’t be on the exam.” Even in university, there were few or no sex education classes. Most of our sexual knowledge was acquired secretly by watching foreign movies and TV shows.

We cannot show interest in sex, let alone talk about it, otherwise we will be looked at differently and despised.

Even in close relationships, we can’t talk about sex openly, nor can we properly enjoy sex.

This is especially true for middle-aged couples.

Whom does the sex life of middle-aged couples offend?

I watched “Gone with the Light” a few days ago, and one scene in it left a deep impression on me:

The male protagonist, Wu Wenxue, wakes up in the morning and discusses his work with his wife of 20 years. Suddenly, he abruptly crawls into his wife’s bed and tries to have sex with her.

His wife asked, “What are you doing?”

Wu Wenxue: “What do you mean, ‘what’?”

After a question and answer session, the two, dressed in thermal underwear, engaged in mechanical “movement” without foreplay, sweet talk, or climax, discussing Wu Wenxue’s efforts to get his professional title through connections.

When the wife heard noises coming from her daughter’s room, she said, “Okay, okay, our daughter’s getting up.” And so the mechanical “movement” came to an abrupt end.

What should have been a pleasant sexual experience was turned into a mechanical “piston” motion.

The two-minute-plus scene portrays a sexual encounter where one is willing to sacrifice everything for the mundane details of life.

It’s both funny and heartbreaking.