High-Achieving Women’s Attitude Toward Sex and Relationships

Wheat’s Guide:

Truly high-quality women never bother with the idea of ”keeping your options open while looking for something better.”

I discussed this issue with an older woman I know.

I said you work so hard, and there are some really good guys pursuing you, why don’t you give it a try, or try finding a partner? You can each be busy with your own things, but when you’re together you can keep each other company. If you really meet your soulmate, then you can dump him.

The woman’s face was half-hidden in the shadow of the sofa, her expression very gentle. She was having afternoon tea with me while handling work emails on her laptop. After a while, she replied, “Ah, they are very nice, but not what I want. What I want is a soulmate.”

She was so beautiful at that moment.

She said, “Wait a moment, I’ll reply to this email and then explain it to you in detail.” I said, “Okay, okay.”

My sister was typing intently, clicking away for a while, then she closed her laptop, sat up straight from the light and shadow, took a sip of coffee, and said the following:

“The love that people can give has a certain concentration. The reason why first love is unforgettable is that the more concentrated the love you give, the less concentrated it becomes as time goes on.”
Most of our parents’ generation married their first love, so the probability of problems is very low. The kind of love I want doesn’t necessarily have to be tied to marriage, but it still has to be a high-quality soulmate.
On the surface, having a secret boyfriend seems like a no-brainer, but in reality, it drains your emotions. Why bother? It’s like wanting an apple, but there aren’t any, so I eat a pear. By the time the pear comes to me, I might already be full from eating apples.

I felt ashamed of the suggestion I had made to her.

Truly high-quality women never bother to look for something better while still employed.

They are striving to pursue this world, improving themselves, traversing snowy Paris and working overtime in Beijing, and telling all open relationships to hell. Every second of the waiting period is more unrestrained and beautiful than the last.

What they deserve is a man who truly loves and understands them, who will embrace all their past experiences, cherish every moment with them, and plan for a better future with them.

God knows these good girls deserve true love; their lives are so wonderfully designed.

They didn’t engage in promiscuous sex late at night, nor did they spend much time tossing and turning alone. Impulsive whims and wrong decisions were not their style.

Everything they do is heading in one direction: to cut through all the bad romantic prospects and meet the right person for them.

Encountering love and sex is not rare; what is rare is encountering understanding.

That older sister is right. There are many people who love too hastily and blindly, many lonely nights filled with restless hearts, and many people who want to warm each other, thus wasting truly good love. What a pity.

We can actually narrow our social circles, post less lonely updates, earn some money to read books, lose weight, take walks, and spend our time improving ourselves. We’ll definitely gain more from that than from improving our kissing skills.

If someone isn’t the right person, then resolutely avoid getting entangled with them.

I want to preserve my capacity to love, I want to wait for the best kind of love, and I want to refuse all the apples that are offered to me until the pear I desire arrives.

Open relationships are a joke to me. Love must include jealousy, suspicion, and insecurity. Life is too short, and the energy for love is too limited to be given to unimportant people.

Because you are the right person in the end, I am willing to meet you a little later. I am working hard so that I can shine when I meet you.

I know that the speed at which everyone I meet in life appears is important, so I’ve discarded all anxieties in the present.

I only want to embrace this one and only certain future with you. We won’t argue because of childishness, nor will we break up because of inexplicable problems. When we’re together, we can be the best versions of ourselves.

I know that the way you look at me is different from how kids look at each other because they’re lonely and want to find a girlfriend. Even though you try your best to hide it, I can tell that you like me.

Of course, I’m sure it’s the same for me; a determined look in our eyes is enough to proclaim our unwavering commitment to the world.3

The world is bustling, Beijing, Shanghai, and Guangzhou are bustling, and we are having a great time drinking and chatting together. But in reality, there are too many lonely souls, too many suffering people, and too many people longing for comfort in this city.

But I am different. I know there is someone like me who will not embrace a stranger in the cold night, and will insist on being alone in moments of loneliness, even if he has swum across a vast ocean for a long time, he will not fish in waters he does not want to reach.

I am the sea that will ultimately be his.

May all the women living alone have confidence on their faces, kindness in their hearts, strong backbone in their blood, and unyielding strength in their lives.

I’m serious about being single, serious about growing, serious about waiting for you, and serious about believing that you are my soulmate. I’m here waiting for you, waiting for us to hit it off immediately.

I’m not in a hurry at all. I think God is thinking, “I want to give this beautiful, cute, innocent and kind little girl more time to grow up, and then save the best, special, and sincere boy for her.”

You too, God is my witness, you are a good girl.