Life Journey: Men and Women Own Their Unique Peaks

In terms of libido, there is a “sexual scissors difference” between men and women, meaning that libido and sexual desire differ as age increases. Men’s libido peaks during puberty, maintaining this level until around age 35 before gradually declining. Women, on the other hand, experience a significant increase in androgen levels after middle age, reaching a peak in sexual desire and sensation. Therefore, understanding the characteristics of male and female libido changes with age is a prerequisite for harmonious sexual relations.

20-30 years old: Men are proactive, women are shy. Men in this age group are physically strong, and with years of accumulated sexual energy, they have the strongest libido. Young men who have just started dating or entered into marriage are eager to try. However, most women at this time are shy, lack sexual knowledge and skills, haven’t yet learned to enjoy sex, and are in a period of heightened sexual desire, with weaker libido than men, often taking a passive role in sexual activity.

Ages 31-40: Men’s libido fluctuates, women become more proactive. The responsibilities of marriage and family, the pressure of career advancement, and social obligations involving smoking and drinking can cause men in this age group to experience fluctuating libido. After age 35, men’s libido begins to decline, mainly due to a decrease in testosterone levels. However, at the same time, men’s ability to control their sexual desire increases, leading to longer sexual encounters and better satisfaction of women’s needs. Meanwhile, women entering their 30s (especially after childbirth) break free from their previous shyness and reserve, their sexual psychology matures, they crave greater sexual satisfaction, and they often become more proactive during intercourse.

41-50 years old: Men’s skills mature, women’s desires awaken. After age 40, men’s androgen levels continue to decline, leading to a gradual decrease in sexual ability and libido. Erection takes longer to achieve, hardness decreases, duration of erection shortens, and ejaculation force weakens. However, their sexual techniques become more mature and they gain more experience. While women’s hormone levels begin to decline at this time…

When women experience “sexual awakening,” the burdens of raising children and household expenses decrease, and their desire for sex increases.

51-60 years old: Both partners experience a decline in libido, and the frequency of sexual activity becomes more similar. Entering this age group, men’s careers are largely established, their lives are stable, and their libido and frequency of sexual activity are relatively stable. At this time, they place more emphasis on the quality of their sex life than the quantity. Women are currently going through menopause, experiencing various bothersome symptoms, and their libido slowly declines. Both partners’ needs regarding the frequency of sexual activity tend to be more aligned.

Ages 61-70: Sexual function declines for both partners. During this stage, the levels of sex hormones in both men and women decrease, sexual organs begin to atrophy, and sexual ability and desire decline year by year. Both partners’ sexual function begins to decline. However, with proper adjustment, it is still possible to enjoy sexual pleasure.

Because there’s a “time difference” in libido between men and women, when one partner’s sexual desire is significantly higher than the other’s, timely communication is crucial to identify the pattern and prepare accordingly. Based on mutual understanding, misunderstandings should be prevented, and disharmony in the sex life should be minimized to achieve satisfaction for both partners. In daily life, actions can also enhance the experience, such as the wife getting a new look or wearing new clothes to enhance her charm; the husband can help with housework or say sweet words to make his wife happy. Even if the sex life isn’t ideal in the end, passionate kisses, caresses, and hugs can provide relief and comfort, deepen the relationship, and strengthen the marriage. ▲