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Return To ShopMen’s Silence in Bed: Answers to Your Intimacy Puzzles
Introduction
A while ago, we launched a topic collection called #What puzzling things have happened to you during sex?#. Seeing the message box overflowing with messages, Liuyunzhu truly felt everyone’s enthusiasm. Some readers who have never had sex even left messages saying, “I am very interested in this topic.”
Emmmmm… Well then, without further ado, let’s get started!
His sexual fetishes left people scratching their heads.
#1: My boyfriend always makes me call him “master” during sex … I’m not really willing, but I still choose to comply…
#2: My boyfriend really likes seeing me in stockings , and he likes to nibble on my stockinged toes during foreplay… Help! It’s so embarrassing! When I ask him, he doesn’t know why he likes it, but he just does. He bought me so many stockings during Singles’ Day, I’m going crazy. I don’t understand men’s psychology, but what can I do? It’s good that he’s happy, and I’m slowly accepting that this is no different from other intimate things.
Number 3: My husband likes to fantasize about other women during sex and will say it out loud ; he always says he wants to try a threesome and wants other men to have sex with me; he always wants me to respond to him verbally and cooperate with him to reach orgasm.
I still believe in our relationship, but this is really bothering me and making me feel a bit sad, which prevents me from fully committing and sometimes affects my judgment of his feelings for me. I’ve tried to communicate with him to understand his true thoughts—whether he doesn’t love me or has other quirks or ideas—but I really don’t know how to communicate.
Liu Yunzhu says: Preferences displayed in sexual intercourse are called “sexual fetishes ,” which for many people can arouse sexual desire and maintain passion between partners.
It is normal to have one’s own sexual fetishes as long as they do not cause pain to others. However, they require mutual consent and safety . Therefore, if girls feel uncomfortable or disgusted, they can certainly express their feelings and refuse.
To learn about the reasons behind sexual fetishes and the causes of different fetishes, click here 👉 .
What else is there besides pain during sex?
#1: My first time having sex, I didn’t feel anything except for the pain when it went in . My boyfriend finished in just a few minutes! Me: ???
#2: This is our first time, and we can’t get it in. It hurts a lot every time . What should we do?
Liu Yunzhu says: The inability to penetrate could be due to psychological tension, size mismatch, or abnormal development such as vaginal malformation. If it’s a physiological issue, it’s recommended to seek medical attention promptly. If it’s due to psychological reasons like tension, try to relax first, and you can also explore and try different techniques . Additionally, foreplay and lubrication during intercoursecan help reduce pain and facilitate smoother penetration.
Why is there a “popping” sound below?
#1: Why do I hear a “popping” sound when I do it? Is it because I’m loose ? I read online that this is usually a sign of vaginal laxity, but I haven’t done it that many times.
#2: Why does it make a “poof poof poof” sound down there when I’m having sex, like farting? But I can’t control it, oh my god, it’s so embarrassing…
A word from Liuyunzhu: Many girls have this question in the comments section, so Liuyunzhu will reiterate the key points. Listen carefully!
Our vaginas naturally contain gas. This gas can be expelled rapidly from the vagina at a certain angle or position within a short period of time, making some sounds. This is called “vaginal gas expulsion” .
During intercourse, due to engorgement, the lower third of the vagina is open, making it easy for air to slip in. Therefore, it may make a sound after the partner withdraws, which is perfectly normal and has little to do with relaxation .
Now that you understand how it works, don’t forget to explain it to your partner. Once you both know what it’s all about, won’t it be less awkward?
To moan or not to moan, that is the question.
#1: I’ve always been curious about something: don’t men moan during sex?
My boyfriend’s size and duration are both quite good, and he loves me very much, but the whole process is like doing something very ordinary, like eating or washing his face . He’s expressionless and doesn’t look as engrossed as he does in the videos.
There was almost no foreplay other than mutual touching, and even the position had to be the traditional missionary position, never changed ! Except for our first time, when he made a groan at the last moment, I almost always thought he didn’t feel any pleasure when he ejaculated!
I asked him why the way he looked in the movies was different from how we looked, and he said, “Those are all acting to fool people! For a normal person, this one pose is just right, there aren’t that many fancy moves.”
#2: When my boyfriend moans, it sounds a bit like a girl, almost like a girl’s moaning during sex. It might be related to the fact that he likes to sing high notes, and the more excited he gets, the higher his pitch becomes. When he makes a “slap” sound, his moaning is probably even stronger than mine. I’m embarrassed.
#3: Do I have to moan during ” slap”? As a girl with a rather deep voice, I feel like I can’t make a soft, gentle sound, and I’m actually afraid of choking on phlegm .
At first I would moan, but later I basically stopped. My boyfriend thought I wasn’t as comfortable as before, which was true, but as a “veteran actress,” I had to comfort him by saying, “No, it’s just that I don’t like moaning lately,” and I would even joke, “Then you moan,” to ease the awkward atmosphere… Waaah, I want to hear other women’s experiences !
#4: The guy always says he wants to hear the girl moan, what does a moan sound like? I feel like I’m always the one putting on an act for him, and he even says my voice isn’t nice . I’m speechless…
Liu Yunzhu has something to say: Friend #2’s sharing just answers Friend #1’s question. Some men do moan during sex, while others don’t. This might be because they think moaning is unmanly, or they might be holding back their strength and find it inconvenient to moan… But moaning isn’t necessary for sex . Perhaps the other person’s “pleasure” isn’t expressed through moaning. Talking to the other person about this will clarify things.
What does an orgasm actually feel like?!
#1: Every time we have sex, it feels so good and I really want it, but I just can’t reach orgasm. It’s so frustrating ! I can have clitoral orgasms when I masturbate, but I’ve never experienced a vaginal orgasm!
#2: What does an orgasm actually feel like? Is it feeling hot all over? So weak that you can’t move? Or something else? The answers I found online are all too official 😭 😭 😭.
Liu Yunzhu has something to say: The number of nerve endings distributed in the vagina is far less than that in the clitoris. 90% of women can achieve clitoral orgasm, while less than 70% of women can achieve vaginal orgasm. If you want to know what it feels like, come on, the microphone is handed over to everyone in the comments section. Please describe it in your most direct and colloquial language .
How much do you know about physiology?
#1: I want to know the normal length of a penis. When my boyfriend isn’t erect, it feels like a small ping-pong ball…
#2: I had my first orgasm while having sex with my boyfriend, and then I suddenly started wailing , which scared him so much that he stopped 🙈 🙈 🙈. What could be the reason for crying so much during an orgasm?
Liu Yunzhu has something to say: A study on “penis length in Asian men” shows that the average length of a penis in its natural state is 8.20cm, and the average length in its erect state is 13.650cm. We have talked about the measurement and judgment methods many times before. If you still have questions, you can click here to view.
As for the friend who “cried loudly,” postcoital anxiety might explain your behavior. It’s a fairly common condition, so you don’t need to pay too much attention to it. You can try to understand why you’re crying and then address the underlying cause. For more details, click here 👉 to learn more.
Sex is actually a lovely thing.
#1: I made her orgasm twice with my hand earlier, and I was just about to get my brother dressed and get down to business when she rolled over, hugged me, and said, “I can’t take it anymore, I’m exhausted,” and then fell asleep in less than 10 seconds… leaving my rock-hard penis and me completely bewildered…
Number 2: My girlfriend is a virgin (she said she doesn’t want to try love before marriage). Even though we were already wet from just kissing (I suddenly noticed when I touched the outside), she still didn’t want to cross that line, so I could only go along with her wishes. Afterwards, I asked her if she was excited by the kisses, but she didn’t answer and started hitting me hard. It feels so difficult; I want to know if she really likes me (facepalm).
Liu Yunzhu has something to say: These two friends’ sharing is so vivid… It’s quite endearing, and it also makes you realize that even without a perfect sex life, two people can still be a perfect couple ~ By the way, what do you experienced drivers think about friend number 2’s question? Leave your comments below!
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