Surprising Topic Switch During Casual Conversation

“The King of Guangzhou? It’s clearly a love story between a Black man and a Chinese woman in Guangzhou.” The office staff said this and were about to leave when I blurted out, “Wow, they date Chinese girls in Guangzhou? How enviable!”

“I really admire your curiosity. Why don’t you talk to them about their sex lives and make it the topic for the next issue? Right now.”

Sure enough, the longest road I walked was the one paved with the dean’s schemes.

Although I was feeling a bit overwhelmed, I decided to do some research first, just in case, to give myself some courage. Then I tried searching for related news using the keyword “Guangzhou Blacks”—

EXO ME??? This added an even more mysterious (and unsettling) touch to my nighttime chat-up with Black men.

Although my heart was trembling, in order not to be laughed at by the office staff for being a coward, I gritted my teeth and embarked on the journey to Xiaobei to talk about feelings with the black people.

So, I found myself in Xiaobei, the African Town of Guangzhou . I felt like a rare breed there. Honestly, it felt pretty good to have gone on a trip without spending a single penny, I consoled myself.

Although there are two graceful African women in the picture, the number of Black men far exceeds the number of Black women .

So, do you know how large the number of Black people is in Guangzhou? Let the knowledgeable office staff explain:

Although official figures state that there are 16,000 Black people in Guangzhou, the actual number exceeds 200,000, which is an open secret. In addition , there is a gender imbalance among Black people.

In Guangzhou, the majority of the population is Black from West African Muslim countries. Since Muslim countries do not encourage women to work outside the home, most of those who come to Guangzhou to “seek their fortune” are young and strong men .

So, our ultimate question arises—

Are they sexually repressed?

How do they satisfy their physiological needs?

To satisfy the curiosity of the office staff, I shamelessly chatted up two black guys from Senegal, Buba and Adu, who showed me around Xiaobei and had a serious but shallow chat. To the surprise of the office staff, this casual chat made me realize that they were both quite remarkable.

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What is casual sex? We use the “shake” function to learn Chinese.

After seeing their social media apps, I can no longer call myself a social animal . Their proficiency with WeChat left me speechless; their reply speed was faster than your boyfriend’s, and they communicated in Chinese without any problems. Meanwhile, my English, which I’ve been learning since kindergarten, was completely useless in their conversations.

Besides being fluent in Chinese, they also made full use of every feature of social media apps—

The “Shake” and “People Nearby” features on QQ were ambiguous to the office staff, but the shy Buba used them as a way to make friends. He even developed a short-lived romance using QQ, and “everything that was supposed to happen happened . “

Yes, that’s very Chinese.

At first, Adu shook his head and acted cute, claiming he didn’t understand what we were saying and was just a kid. Later, he insisted that he used these apps to better learn Chinese . He opened his Moments and Meituan profiles, confidently showing us his homepage and telling us that these were better for practicing Chinese than WeChat: “Because they don’t have a translation function, I can learn more Chinese by making friends this way.” Yes, it was all for learning Chinese.

That was when I first heard about the dating app Meix.

I think he must use social media very frequently. Because when he speaks Chinese, I have to concentrate completely to understand what he’s trying to say. And when we chat on WeChat, his Chinese is so good that I can’t believe he’s only lived in China for a few years.

That was when I first heard about the dating app Meix.

Social media apps, to some extent, reflect a person’s social circle. The wide range of Chinese apps they use is a testament to their gradual integration into China—as we chatted idly, the notification sounds from their various social apps mingled together, and I could almost hear “King of Guangzhou” playing in my ears again.

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Women aren’t inherently beautiful or ugly, fat or thin; they’ll all look beautiful with makeup.

” Makeup is definitely okay! “

While many straight men in China still believe that cosmetics are useless, that natural beauty is the best, and that those who wear heavy makeup are ugly, yet think that a person wearing a full Korean-style makeup look stunning even without makeup, these two black men say: “Women are neither beautiful nor ugly, and can wear makeup.”

In that instant, they touched the softest corner of my heart, and even stirred a little bit of girlish sentimentality. After all, in my mind, all straight men were equally dark-skinned.

To be honest, when I casually looked at some before-and-after photos of Black people afterward, I felt that A-Du and Buba were still too naive—they probably haven’t seen the makeup and disguise skills of us Asians yet .

Unlike their attitude towards makeup, they vehemently opposed cosmetic surgery . Adu even spent nearly half an hour explaining to us the various harms of cosmetic surgery to the body, such as a face full of acne and facial deformities , not allowing us to interrupt even half a word. His earnestness was as if I had made an appointment to get hyaluronic acid injections the next day; all I could say was, “Dad, I understand.”

I want to be an African in my next life too, we have big dicks

Being in a foreign land makes one miss home even more. When we talked about Africa, Adu and Buba began to express their boundless love for the continent.

He became a little emotional and began to express his pride to us in English with animated gestures. The diligence and intelligence of Africans, the contributions of Black people to the United States, and Obama’s African ancestry all became topics of his conversation.

Oh, and there’s the long-standing folklore about “African giant dicks .” They’re quite confident about that.

Adu excitedly told us that the rumors about Africans having huge penises were true, and that it was a “gift from God,” a gift from God (Allah), and that his Chinese girlfriends were very satisfied. Then he couldn’t resist taking a jab at his Chinese friend—who envied him because his Chinese friend only lasted two minutes and was much smaller than him .

In this pleasant atmosphere, I invited A-Du and Buba to say something to the camera. A-Du made a peace sign and said, “African forever ,” and Buba smiled and echoed, “African forever,” before immediately adding, ” China is great too, I love China. “

At that moment, I was reminded of the video “King of Guangzhou.” Honestly , his confidence made me feel that their future might not just be a dream.

Intriguingly, these people who love Africa but want to stay in China expressed a desire for their children to be born in the United States or a European country.

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We even forgo sex for the sake of our dreams.

When I tried to connect with them on a personal level, like a Xie Na-style interview with Lu Yu, they talked to me about their dreams. At that moment, I felt like I was sitting upright listening to a speech on CCTV .

They told me that anything is possible in China, and they were willing to work in different cities. Even if someone offered them a US visa or even a house, they wouldn’t accept it. With a willful and arrogant expression, Adu told us he didn’t want to go anywhere ; he didn’t want to start his life over; China held his dreams.

In short, I’m going to stay in China and make money; there’s so much money in China!

However, the State Council Office, concerned about the country and its people, couldn’t help but worry about the government officials who were sitting in their offices having meetings and drinking tea:

This represents the dreams of hundreds of thousands of Black people. Can you handle it?

Adu originally didn’t even know what China was, but he still proudly said, ” It was your Chinese schools that asked me to come; you invited me to study in China. ” Talking about his radiant ideals, he was incredibly proud.

However, a free-spirited young man like me wouldn’t easily talk about ideals. So I started to probe: ” Foreigners as hardworking as you are really rare in China. You must be very popular with Chinese girls.”

However, when talking about their Chinese exes, A-Du and Buba smiled helplessly.

Regarding the difficult Chinese girlfriend, both men shared a strong sense of resonance: as men pursuing their dreams, we shouldn’t be bound by romantic love . Adu said, “I think seeing each other 2-3 times a week is appropriate; seeing each other every day is too tiring, and I have work to do .” Buba completely agreed, because what troubled him most was that when his girlfriend repeatedly felt she didn’t love him, he simply didn’t know how to prove his love .

I was inexplicably labeled as clingy. Although I wanted to argue, the moment the words left my mouth, I realized I couldn’t speak for all women in China, so why bother explaining? Besides, they can leave a Chinese ex and immediately find another one ; you can only envy them.

After discussing feelings, how could we not talk about sex? So I mustered up my courage and gently asked, “ You’re working so hard in a foreign country, what about your physical needs? ” They told me righteously, “We’re here to pursue our dreams, these things are unimportant, we would never go to prostitutes .”

At that moment, I felt as if they were standing on a halo, presenting me with a textbook example of human struggle, and everything around me became sacred.

Having lived in China for many years, they were very shrewd. At that moment, I couldn’t help but ask myself, “What is your dream?”

Everything went very smoothly the whole evening, until Buba asked as we were leaving, “Want to come to my place tonight?”

I was a little stunned, but I still tried to remain calm and explained to him the profound meaning it had in China, while he just continued with his signature smile. Well, perhaps my explanation was actually unnecessary .

After dinner, I felt that they seemed to understand China better than I had imagined, or rather, they were better at navigating Chinese society.

In fact, Buba and Durant are just a small microcosm of the vast Black community in Guangzhou.

They carried the pride of Africans and harbored dreams of making a name for themselves in China. Clearly, they had worked hard for a long time to integrate into this environment. However, when faced with a constant stream of negative news and even rumors about sexual assault and rape, they avoided discussing sex, instead talking to me on camera about their dreams.

Are they reserved? I don’t think so. So confident in their abilities and capabilities, it’s less about shyness and more about their deep understanding of how to survive in the gray areas.

Are they satisfied with this lifestyle? They didn’t tell me, but judging from their artwork ” King of Guangzhou ,” it’s probably not.