Stop arguing about whether men or women value relationships more; the answer has never been about gender.

Have you noticed that people always discuss “who values feelings more, men or women”?

Actually, the depth of feelings has nothing to do with gender; it only depends on individual character.

Some say men in love are like “big boys,” secretly saving money to buy the gifts their partner asks for, and secretly taking pictures of scenery and sending them to messages while on business trips; others say women, after a breakup, repeatedly go through old things and save screenshots of chat logs into photo albums.

But in real life, more often than not, that usually quiet man will run all over three streets to buy medicine when his lover has a fever;

That seemingly delicate woman would put aside her work to stay by her friend’s side during a low point.

We are often trapped by stereotypes that “women are naturally more emotional” and “men are more rational.”

Just as some people deliberately “don’t take it seriously” to avoid getting hurt, while others learn to “harden their hearts” and refuse to erode their relationships in order to protect love—in fact, a person who values relationships might be the “straight man” you see, or they might be a “gentle woman.”

True affection is like what is written in the Book of Songs: “joyful but not licentious, sorrowful but not debilitating.” It is understanding that love should be moderate, yet still being willing to open one’s heart and soul to those who deserve it.

There are no gender labels in relationships, only stories of genuine feelings exchanged and the warmth of two independent souls meeting.