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Are you satisfied with your sex life?
The survey revealed that women’s overall satisfaction with their sex lives is actually not high: only 49% of heterosexual women, 47% of lesbian women, and 49% of bisexual women are satisfied with their sex lives.
As for male satisfaction with their sex life, it is not high either. Even among heterosexual men who consider themselves “sexually happy” (which is expected), only 51% are satisfied with their sex life.
Sex is a taboo subject, and many people dare not openly say that sex is the most important thing to them. Even though many people say in public or private surveys that sex is more important than anything else, in reality, people only spend an average of four minutes a day having sex, and most people spend more time shopping or staring at the refrigerator than that.
Personally, I know very well which thing I would rather do! The key point above is: dissatisfaction with sex seems to be a very common thing.
Why is the frequency of sexual activity low?
Why do people have sex less frequently than they actually want? It’s probably because more sex is a common societal expectation, so they give an idealized answer when answering questions (haha, I’ve also lied about my weight in anonymous surveys).
Being honest with yourself isn’t easy, and we all tend to be unsatisfied with the things we like. Of course, not everyone has a sex life, and many people’s relationships don’t progress smoothly, preventing them from taking things further. For most people, even if they are dissatisfied with their sex life, they won’t discuss sex openly, much less prioritize it.
Some women experience painful intercourse due to certain symptoms, which naturally leads to fluctuating libido. Essentially, this is a very complex issue.
Sexually insulated couples are more common than people think. 15% of couples do not have sex, meaning they haven’t had sexual intercourse in the past six to twelve months; this is less common in non-marital relationships.
Sexual response cycle
Physiologically, from a purely sexual stimulation perspective, the clitoris is the most important structure for women. However, this does not mean that stimulating the nipples or anus cannot lead to orgasm; rather, it means that the clitoris is an organ that evolved specifically to produce sexual pleasure, and that it will almost always respond when other sensitive areas are stimulated.
Interestingly, in the brain, the reflex zone for stimulating the nipples overlaps with the reflex zone for stimulating the clitoris.
The sexual response cycle refers to the four physiological stages of sexual activity. This classic model of sexual response is a linear model first proposed in 1960 by William H. Masters and Virginia E. Johnson.
There are four phases: excitement, plateau, climax, and resolution. The downside of this model is that it does not take desire into account (it can be challenging to get excited if you don’t like your partner or your partner annoys you).
However, while another proposed model adds a desire phase, both models are male-centric and presuppose a pre-existing sexual impulse. This completely ignores the many reasons why women desire sexual intimacy, such as emotional connection, trust, affection, security, and respect with their partners.
In 2000, Dr. Rosemary Basson proposed another model of sexual response: the cyclical model. Her concept is that satisfying sexual contact does not necessarily begin with spontaneous sexual impulses or desires; that is, it is not necessarily the desire to have sex that precedes having sex.
This model suggests that the women participating in the study also indicated that, in addition to physical stimulation, feelings of security, being desired, or happiness could enhance sexual arousal and satisfaction. This model posits that women may not experience highly spontaneous sexual urges every time they have sex; some women engage in voluntary sex initially to feel intimacy or connection, and then are aroused during the act itself.
Dr. Basen’s model supports the concept that sexual desire can be spontaneous or the result of the interaction of many physiological and emotional stimuli. In other words, sexual desire can be spontaneous or reactive. This model also confirms that intimacy is a very important sexual element for many women.
I often tell my female friends to focus less on spontaneous sexual urges and more on satisfaction (both physical and emotional), and of course, pleasure and sexual ecstasy. Many women are obsessed with spontaneous sexual urges, but honestly, this feeling is more like a response to a man’s sexual fantasies.
I prefer to think of sex as a party. Whether you receive a gold-plated invitation or a text message invitation, and whether you arrive in a limousine, drive yourself, take the subway, or walk, the important thing is that you’re at the party and having a great time.
Arousal of sexual desire and physical changes during sex
During sexual intercourse, when the body responds, blood flow to the vagina and vulva increases, resulting in clitoral congestion, vulvar swelling, and vaginal lubrication. The lower third of the vagina may tighten, while the upper two-thirds may expand. The top of the vagina and the uterus may lift slightly.
A sexual orgasm is a rhythmic contraction of the muscles around the vagina (pelvic floor muscles). This contraction is a reflex action, meaning that your nerves and muscles coordinate themselves without conscious input from the brain, similar to the knee-jerk reflex (when you tap your knee, your lower leg kicks forward because this triggers a reflex, not because the brain consciously gives a command to move the knee).
Kegel exercises, which involve contracting the pelvic floor muscles, won’t trigger orgasm, but many women find that consciously contracting these muscles increases sexual arousal. I would compare it to invigorating the body, like warming up your legs before a run, or warming up your car when it’s cold. Give it a try!
A woman’s orgasm (pelvic floor muscle contraction) usually lasts 5 to 60 seconds, and the pelvic floor muscles contract approximately every 0.8 seconds, which means they contract in waves.
For many women, each contraction lasts longer than the previous one, but is less intense. The number of contractions typically ranges from 3 to 15. Orgasm is accompanied by feelings of well-being and can sometimes be stress-relieving. Interestingly, men and women use almost identical terms to describe orgasm.
Because the clitoris has the highest density of nerve endings, some women are too sensitive to touch it directly during foreplay or intercourse. Women who cannot tolerate vibrating massagers or stimulating the clitoral glans with their hands may find that licking it with their tongue is a good alternative. They can also touch the clitoris through a soft cloth while using a massager (or their fingers).
Fortunately, the clitoral branches outside the urethra extend into the vagina and are located below the labia, so there are many alternative methods to increase sexual pleasure without directly touching the clitoral glans, such as pressing a large-surface massager against the vaginal opening to stimulate the clitoral crura.
Think carefully about the size and location of the clitoris; this can help you come up with different and creative ways to stimulate it, making the sexual experience more enjoyable.
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