How I Fixed X’s Poor Quality of Life (Simple Solution)

I’m a guy born in the mid-90s. Two years ago, I met my girlfriend. We were attracted to each other and quickly became a couple.

I call her Akko. She was my first girlfriend. At that age, when I was still clueless and didn’t know how to love someone, I think I used almost all my strength to protect her. I firmly believe that she also truly loved me. In my heart, she was as warm as a kitten.

We get along very easily, helping and tolerating each other, but something I never took seriously before has become a problem I just can’t solve.

That is, I found that Akko wasn’t in the mood for sex. I felt like she wasn’t comfortable, or at least not as comfortable as I expected. Looking back now, our sex life was really bumpy; it never went smoothly from the very beginning.

An awkward first night

On our first time, neither of us had any experience. Although we were both adults, we were like clueless kids in this area. I could only awkwardly try to imitate the scenes from adult films, my mind a complete mess.

The result was predictable: embarrassing, indescribably embarrassing—I didn’t even get inside… This reminded me of a quote I’d seen before: “They tell dirty jokes loudly but don’t know how to penetrate a girl’s body on her first time.” Isn’t that just like my past self, so ignorant?

To this day, I still remember the look of pain Akko had in. Because of the pain, I had to stop. At the time, I didn’t think it was my problem; I even thought it was the other person’s problem.

One-sided sex

Later, there was no more embarrassing experience like the first time, but the situation was not optimistic either.

I discovered that Akko wasn’t happy during sex. She always remained stiff, letting me move her around, without the moving moans or the ecstatic expressions seen in adult films. I tried to talk to her about it, and she said she felt quite tired, but her happiness made me happy too. However, I felt this was incredibly unhealthy. If she was only doing it to satisfy my desires, I would feel extremely guilty.

Failed attempts

To solve this problem, I tried to learn. I learned a lot, from the importance of the anterior pelvis to the structure of the female body. I insisted on doing PC muscle exercises every day, jogging for 45 minutes every day, and eating more seafood…

So I prolonged the foreplay, and each time I stroked as gently as possible, making sure I was in the right state of mind…

Yes, many methods worked, but not the results I wanted—Ake just didn’t hurt as much as before, but I still felt like I was just doing simple and boring piston-like movements.

I started to suspect that Akko might be sexually frigid. I really don’t understand why all my efforts have resulted in this outcome. I’m certain it’s her problem.

Re-examining the problem

More than a month passed, during which we rarely slept together. One day, I stumbled upon a quote: “There are no sexually frigid women, only incompetent and arrogant men.” Reflecting on this past month, it felt like the winter of our relationship. If things continued like this, there was only one possibility: a breakup. And that wasn’t the outcome I wanted. Besides, it would be pathetic to just push problems I couldn’t solve onto the other person. And wasn’t this really not my fault? A month of calm allowed me to re-evaluate the issue.

So I tried again to find a solution.

For a long time, everything remained the same, and it seemed that all methods had only a negligible effect. Until seven months ago, everything took a turn for the better. That day, I happened to be chatting in a WeChat group of about 100 people, where experienced drivers would occasionally make suggestive remarks. Suddenly, a seasoned female driver posted a public WeChat account called “The Green Apricots Are Ripe.”

Although I occasionally searched for related information online, much of it was still completely new to me. I read over a dozen posts, and it turns out so many people are searching for answers! I should guide Akko to find her own happiness. So I privately messaged the girl who promoted the public account, and to my surprise, she had the same experience—no feelings. But she was so cheerful and lively, I figured she must have solved the problem, so I shyly and indirectly asked her how to resolve it.

She was much more direct than me. She bluntly said it was simply because my technique was lacking, I hadn’t found the places my girlfriend liked, and I was just recklessly poking her body. I felt a little embarrassed, but it would be great if this could solve the problem, so I quickly asked her if she had any solutions.

She jokingly suggested using some tools. Well, I remember blushing bright red. But I trusted her completely; she’d had similar experiences, and besides, she had no reason to lie to me. So I secretly bought a vibrator at the Qingxing Market. I didn’t know if this little toy would work, but I was willing to try again.

Later, Ah Ke and I spent a night with this vibrator that wasn’t exactly wonderful, but at least it wasn’t too awkward. Sure enough, with the help of the vibrator, she was quickly aroused and even moaned. I later realized that I hadn’t been able to stimulate her clitoris properly, or if I had, I hadn’t done it correctly.

That night, Akko and I talked for a long time, and she finally let go of her worries. Ever since I thought she was frigid, she had thought so too, and even felt a little guilty towards me. But actually, neither of us had properly faced the problem or communicated properly. Later, she promised me that she would masturbate more often to make her body more sensitive.

In conclusion

I’m so glad that my relationship with her has become more harmonious, and I’m also so glad that I solved that “no problem” issue. I’m very grateful to that “female driver” I’ve never met, and I’m also very grateful to Qingxing for buying me the toy.

I still see boys every now and then who are just as confused about this “little thing” as I was back then, and I’m glad that they are learning and making up for their shortcomings.

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