Understanding Pleasure Differences: Intimacy vs. Self-Care

I know that masturbation is very harmful, but I’m addicted to the pleasure it brings, and I even feel that the pleasure of sex is not as good as masturbation.

What exactly is going on? Is this normal?

Why is the pleasure derived from sexual intercourse less than that from masturbation?

1. The degree of self-control differs between masturbation and sexual activity.

Masturbation, as a completely autonomous activity, allows you to decide the intensity, process, duration, method, and tools yourself. You only need to focus on “how to maximize your own pleasure” without worrying about others’ feelings. It’s said that you know yourself best, understand your own needs, and know how to please yourself. This completely free and relaxed approach, with complete physical and mental relaxation, naturally makes it easier to reach orgasm .

Sexual activity involves not only oneself but also one’s partner. Since it’s a collaborative effort, consideration for each other’s feelings is inevitable, and compromise may be necessary. Sexual activity demands a certain level of attention to environment and behavior. If the partner isn’t someone you’re attracted to, the pleasure of sex can also be affected by factors such as contraception, safety, and physical appearance.

2. The Reality of the “Seven-Year Itch”

“To become husband and wife and be loving and trusting each other” is a beautiful wish, but reality is often a mess.

Some couples who have been married for many years become so familiar with each other that they lose interest in each other’s sex life, turning it into a routine and uninteresting process. Other couples frequently argue over trivial matters in life, leading to disharmony and even resentment, making it even more difficult to maintain an interest in sex.

The biggest difference between sexual intercourse and masturbation is:

Masturbation is an individual behavior simply to satisfy a momentary physiological need; it’s simple and easy to do. Sexual intercourse, however, requires a foundation of love between two people. Two people who are compatible can achieve both physical and psychological pleasure through intimate sexual intercourse, enhancing their relationship. Both partners can learn some sexual techniques and methods to make each other happier.

Whether male or female, both sexual intercourse and masturbation should be done in moderation.

How can I tell if I’m masturbating excessively?

1. Difficulty controlling oneself when impulsive.

Whenever I see jokes or movie plots that easily trigger my imagination, I feel an urge to indulge in fantasies and even put them into practice.

2. The person exudes a “listless” aura.

Feeling listless and exhausted, drowsy all day, unable to concentrate , having difficulty focusing on studying or working, and easily getting lost in thought .

3. “My body was completely drained”

Feeling weak all over, with a sore back and weak legs, feeling dizzy and lightheaded, and seeing stars.

If you experience any of the three symptoms mentioned above, you must refrain from doing so. In addition, you should pay attention to a balanced diet, get plenty of rest, and exercise moderately. Avoid abusing aphrodisiacs and other supplements.