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Based on the plots in most erotic novels, movies, or pornographic films, couples judge each other’s sexual arousal by the responses of their sexual organs, or use it as a rating system for sex.
This leads many to believe that vaginal lubrication equals sexual arousal, sexual desire, and readiness for sex. Therefore, when some find their situation differs from what’s shown on television, they begin to worry that they’ve done something wrong, haven’t done it well enough, or that there’s something wrong with their body. Ultimately, they not only fail to find answers but also develop feelings of pressure or aversion towards sex.
Why is it that sometimes we feel a strong desire in our hearts, but our bodies don’t respond? Sometimes our sexual organs react, but we don’t feel any burning desire? These phenomena are actually due to inconsistent sexual arousal.
Does sexual organ response equal sexual arousal?
The research team had the participants stay alone in a room, sitting in a comfortable chair watching television. Male participants had sensors attached to their penises to detect the level of blood flow during erection, while female participants had an optical device inserted into their vaginas to measure blood flow. Furthermore, participants held a dial that they could adjust to record their psychological level of sexual arousal, such as “I feel a little excited,” or “I feel very excited.”
Then, the television will broadcast all sorts of pornographic films, some romantic, some violent, some male-male, some female-female, some male-female, or some content unrelated to sex.
During the process, the research team recorded the overlap between the subjects’ perceived level of arousal (subjective arousal) and the level of sexual organ response; the results showed that the overlap rate was about 50% for men and only 10% for women.
In other words, there is no predictable relationship between a woman’s sexual arousal and the degree of response of her sexual organs, and it is not significant from a behavioral science or statistical perspective. Moreover, the degree of sexual organ response is roughly the same regardless of the type of pornography; as long as the stimulus is sexually related, the female sexual organs will respond, regardless of whether she feels sexually attracted.
A world where women’s bodies are rife with lies?
This research has been published for several years, featured in The New York Times and several popular books, and many teams have replicated the experimental method and confirmed the results. However, the influence of these media reports seems unable to dispel this deeply ingrained myth.
For centuries, the medical, scientific, and entertainment industries have been almost entirely dominated by men. Consequently, men have naturally adopted their own sexual responses as the “preset” standard and applied the same logic directly to women, assuming that vaginal lubrication equates to sexual desire.
This leads to women mistakenly believing that there is “something wrong” with themselves when they encounter reactions that differ from those of men, and they are even accused of being “hypocritical.”
For men who can’t experience this firsthand, the best way to understand it is through morning erections. Morning erections aren’t due to a particularly high sex drive in the morning, but rather a natural response called “nocturnal penile swelling” that occurs during REM sleep, repeatedly appearing and subsiding throughout the night. This physiological response is unrelated to erotic dreams and has no sexual significance; it’s simply a “physiological-psychological inconsistency.”
What can you do if you encounter “disagreement in sexual arousal”?
The same phenomenon can occur in other emotional or physiological responses. For example, the knee-jerk reflex of hitting your knee with a hammer is just a reflex action and does not mean that you actually want to kick the person in front of you; or, salivating when you think of lemons or plums does not mean that you are actually thirsty or hungry.
Human emotions and motivations are far more complex than those of many species, and each person’s inconsistent response patterns are also different. Therefore, regardless of whether gender differences truly exist, we can be quite certain that the emotions experienced by humans do not necessarily perfectly correspond to their physical behaviors.
This difference between men and women is not only influenced by mainstream ideology and culture, but the key reason is actually the physiological difference in that “while the parts of the reproductive organs are the same, their structures differ.” Let’s dispel the misconception that “sexual organ response equals sexual arousal”!
So, what can we do when we encounter “disagreement in sexual arousal” during sexual activity?
- First of all, this is a normal phenomenon that everyone will encounter. You are mentally and physically healthy, you have no problems, and you have not done anything wrong, so there is no need to feel pressured because of it. If you really have to blame someone, blame sex education scholars and the media for not making this knowledge more widely known to the public.
- Observe or tell your sexual partner that you are feeling something in other ways, such as your breathing rate, muscle tension, or simply expressing your feelings.
- If there is insufficient lubrication, use lubricant. Its purpose is to reduce friction, thereby enhancing sexual pleasure, while also preventing tearing or pain.
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